JUST BLACK OR WHITE

We are constantly reminded that things are either black or white. This conditions our mind to ignore the the why's and purely focus on the end result. Not understanding the reasons why, only takes us further away from the substance . Its the grey area that is ignored that makes life a lot more interesting and ensures the minority doesn't slip in the cracks. See things for what they are can only be reached if you open your mind to the whole situation, not just the parts that supports your views.

TO TIRED TO PLAY HARDBALL

Tiredness is the greatest inhibitor, it takes away the characteristics that are evident with those who are withdrawn. Even the most reserved personality is levelled and transformed into a person who doesn't  fear the rejection of not fitting in. The raw feelings they share openly don't normally come out unless they've had a few too many drinks. So sleep less and drink more and your likely to show a better reflection of who you really are, because now your a willing participant to the conversations that your normally trying hard to avoid. Now you have transformed to one of the crowd rather than looking for faults in others because you don't like to let people in.

AFRAID TO BELIEVE

If you have the attitude that your going to fail so why should you even try, then you have already failed. If you feel your efforts have no positive impact and believe you should just give up on your hopes and dreams, then your concerns should be focused on how you became this person who won't even give yourself a chance. When did you let the negativity in the world manipulate your own views. You should not let other peoples negativity change your intentions of trying to improve yours or someone elses life. All this will do is bring you down to a level where you have changed your beliefs just to justify giving up on the idea of the possibilities of a better life. Anything worth trying for has to be believed in first.

READY OR NOT

Those who refuse to look deep into things end up hitting a wall. Feeling stuck and confused they don't know which way to go next, because a lot of their time is spent wondering how they got stuck. All this could of been avoided if they realised that unless you've got a back up plan and prepare yourself for the worst you can only blame your naive mind for the problems that you weren't prepared for. Unless your comfortable to take a punt on your life's results you may as well just hope everything works towards your benefit and don't complain if it doesn't.

TAKE COVER

We live our lives in our own personal bubble to shield us from the things that we don't like. Some of us rarely open up because the fear of rejection isn't something we can handle easily. So we would rather keep our guard up and keep things simple, even though what we show to others is only just a small part of us. Keeping our personal space limited gives you no outlet when needing someone to relate to. Without a connection between people you are left to fill lost without the hope that only human compassion can give you. So give your friends and family the joy of knowing who you are without hiding your rough edges because it's our idiosyncrasies that make us who we are.

SEE IT ALL

If you open yourself to the possibility that not all favours done for you have your best interests at hand, you will find it harder to close your eyes to the lies you get told every day. So being naive not only results in losing your power to take control of your life but also gives others an upper hand on how to manipulate you. If your goal is to try and make everyone happy at the expense of your own happiness, then ignoring the things that might upset you and focus solely on how you can please those who surround you. Sadly it is impossible to satisfy everybody because helping someone may result in displeasing some body else. So you may as well start with your own happiness and take charge and show those who try to turn you into a puppet that you do have a voice of your own.

FRIENDS OF CONVENIENCE

It's funny that when people make insensitive remarks supposedly by accident and you don't let it bother you, then they go for round two. Those kind of people who aren't happy until they have made you unhappy are an example of how misery seems to need company irrespective of the consequences. Cut these friends of convenience out of your life because they will only hold you back. Friends who get jealous of your endeavours will only be saddened by your succession. So choose your friends wisely and you will have friends that will support you through thick and thin or the alternative, having a room full of Facebook friends who just want to show others they are more popular then everyone else which can make you feel more alone because of the lack of compassion highlights your so called friends true motives.